I am a single parent to my three beautiful daughters.
It’s not something I bang on about, I have never been one to over share – ironic being as I am a blogger who shares a lot of her life with the internet but I choose what I put out there, I have control of what I write. I have been asked recently by a few people ‘why don’t you write about your experience’s as a single parent?’ It has made me think why don’t I? Is it the fear of being judged thats holding me back?
This is me; I am 24, I am single and I have three little girls. Most are shocked at that fact but yet everyone I speak to shows support, they show encouragement. They are proud to see me bringing up my girls as best as I can, giving them great experiences and running a business from home to support them and give them all they deserve.
I didn’t plan for thing’s to turn out this way, their dad and I were happily all loved up this time two years ago, I never saw my life not being with him – but things change, things happen, people change and over the years you can grow apart. He’s still a massive part of their life, he does a great job and I care about him a lot but we aren’t together. I don’t have his security, I don’t have someone to share everything with and it can be hard, it was scary in the beginning I felt like I was just winging it and I probably was. But I am here a year on I am happy, content with everything I have and optimistic about what the future holds for us all.
When I think how life could be I am also proud, I do my best – thats all I can do. And my girls they are happy. They are also crazy, cheeky and full of life but they smile and laugh more than anyone I know so I must be doing something right.
When I started writing this post I didn’t know how it was going to go, I guess I wanted to share some of the thoughts spinning around in my head, and blogging is like therapy (therapy that you share with a few thousand people – but hey).
The main message I wanted to get across is being single doesn’t change how you have to live your life, I do lots with my children, we go away together, we have fun together, I have goals and ambitions that I want to achieve and I will achieve them. There may be more obstacles and challenges along the way but it wont stop me doing the things I want too, I wont let it.