I am a single parent to my three beautiful daughters.
It’s not something I bang on about, I have never been one to over share – ironic being as I am a blogger who shares a lot of her life with the internet but I choose what I put out there, I have control of what I write. I have been asked recently by a few people ‘why don’t you write about your experience’s as a single parent?’ It has made me think why don’t I? Is it the fear of being judged thats holding me back?
This is me; I am 24, I am single and I have three little girls. Most are shocked at that fact but yet everyone I speak to shows support, they show encouragement. They are proud to see me bringing up my girls as best as I can, giving them great experiences and running a business from home to support them and give them all they deserve.
I didn’t plan for thing’s to turn out this way, their dad and I were happily all loved up this time two years ago, I never saw my life not being with him – but things change, things happen, people change and over the years you can grow apart. He’s still a massive part of their life, he does a great job and I care about him a lot but we aren’t together. I don’t have his security, I don’t have someone to share everything with and it can be hard, it was scary in the beginning I felt like I was just winging it and I probably was. But I am here a year on I am happy, content with everything I have and optimistic about what the future holds for us all.
When I think how life could be I am also proud, I do my best – thats all I can do. And my girls they are happy. They are also crazy, cheeky and full of life but they smile and laugh more than anyone I know so I must be doing something right.
When I started writing this post I didn’t know how it was going to go, I guess I wanted to share some of the thoughts spinning around in my head, and blogging is like therapy (therapy that you share with a few thousand people – but hey).
The main message I wanted to get across is being single doesn’t change how you have to live your life, I do lots with my children, we go away together, we have fun together, I have goals and ambitions that I want to achieve and I will achieve them. There may be more obstacles and challenges along the way but it wont stop me doing the things I want too, I wont let it.
I take my hat off to single parents – you’re amazing! You can see how happy your girls are and that you do so much together. Whether they do those things with two parents together or not, it doesn’t matter x
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Thanks Rebecca – It means alot xx
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You are such a strong lady Amy – doing a fantastic job with your three girls AND successfully carving out a career at the same and by yourself. Whilst I am sure that this post will show other single mums that no matter how scary it is to do this on your own you can still be hugely successful, I think the people who will be most inspired by you are those three little girls. You are a great role model for them x
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Aw Karen thankyou so much too kind I really hope you are right xx
Amy recently posted…Being a single parent..
Of course I am right! Your girls will remember all the experiences and fun that you have provided them, whilst earning a living independently. It will help them be strong, confident women in the future- just like their mum!
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You are an inspiration to us all Amy and so proud of all you achieve you are doing an amazing job with your three girls.
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Thank you Karen xxxx
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Such a hard job being a single parent but we manage it and the rewards are amazing. Your girls have an amazing life and despite things changing they will remember the good times! I’ve been on my own for 4years, didn’t plan this life of widowhood but I have two happy boys and that is all that matters right now. xx
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Without sounding patronising, I honestly admire your strength so so much. I really don’t think I would manage as well as you as a single parent. Your girls always look to be super happy and you definitely seem to be coping just fine as an independent & strong single Mama. You should definitely feel super proud of yourself xxxx
You only have to look at the three of them to know they are happy and loved. That is all any of us can hope for with our kids isn’t it? You are a fab mum! xxx
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I have lots of respect for single parents because being a mum is hard work on it’s own let alone going it alone! You seem like you do a fab job for your beautiful girl and they always look so happy! xx
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My marriage is ending and this is such an inspiring read for me. I am so scared to be alone as I am a foreigner raising my child but .. you are an inspiration. Thanks for sharing this story. #EatSleepBlogRT
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I think you are inspiring. Being a single mum is damned hard and I think it’s amazing that you do it so beautifully 🙂 H x
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This post is fab. I’m 25, a single mum to one little worldy. It’s hard, but you just get on with it. Some days are tougher than others but all in all her smile helps me through. Thanks for sharing.
Amy, every time you post a photo of you out and about I always admire you. You do so much with them – you’re amazing. 🙂 Jess xx
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You work it Mrs. Your girls all seem happy, smiling and such gorgeous characters. Your blog is flying high and you are a proper inspiration. Keep up the awesome work xx
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You are rockin’ it, mama. Parenting is bloody hard and I couldn’t imagine doing it solo.You make it look easy, lovely.
What an inspiration to your girls you are. 🙂 xx
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Amy I have watched you grow through the last couple of years, you are amazing and just got on with it and dealt with all that life has thrown at you with amazing poise and dignity. You have always put the girls first and that shows. Your girls will look back and think wow our mum rocks, she made our lives amazing despite circumstances. You are an inspiration to anyone that finds themselves single with kiddies, and shown that being and single parent does not mean that life stops, quite the opposite x
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I actually think being a single mum gives you more strength to do things. I would love to travel with my little one abroad but feel like I need my OH to be there as support. As a single mum I would’t even have that as an option, I would just have to bite the bullet. Maybe I need to try and think more like a single mum to become a stronger and better mum overall. x
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You are one of the most inspiring, strong, idipendant and caring people I know. And this blog post just confirms all this. Well done hon, you are doing an amazing job!! xx
Oh Amy, you are amazing. And I am really proud of you for writing this post. I know that it can’t have been easy to write. But I am so glad that you did. Because it shows what a hugely strong woman you are. I have always thought that you are the most awesome mum. You put the rest of us to shame. And to do that whilst being single and working bloody hard to establish a new career for yourself is inspirational. You are an inspiration Amy. And all mums, single or not, could learn a lot from you. Hugs Lucy xxxx
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Amy I can’t tell you how often I look at your photos and think what a wonderful mum you must be, you get out with your girls so much and I love seeing all your adventures. It’s totally inspiring, even though I’m not single I don’t think I manage to do half the stuff you do with three kids! You’re amazing, amazing Mama and amazing lady xx
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You are amazing. I always say to Dickie how incredible I think you are – you’re an absolute inspiration. You’ve coped so brilliantly by yourself – your girls have got the most fantastic role model. Their mama is beautiful, kind, smart, funny and manages to juggle — what a lot of couples struggle to do — single handedly. Proud of you, lovely girl
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You do such an amazing job with three only hun! My mum had me and my brother as a single mum since I was 8 and I realise now what an amazing job she has done. You will be such a fab role model for your girls xx #twinklytuesday
You are such an inspirational woman, Amy. Thanks for sharing this with us. I definitely think it would be awesome if you shared more about your strength and determination to show those beautiful girls how it’s done. You’re such an amazing role model to them and they’re so lucky to be shown that spirit and tenacity, not to mention self-reliance. I loved meeting you at Britmums and got the impression you were one hell of a force! Xxx #twinklytuesdays
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You are doing a fantastic job and I have huge respect for single parents.
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I’m so glad you wrote about this Amy, honestly you are doing amazingly and I know how hard it is being a single mum, it is really, really tough. It’s great to hear that you are so optimistic about the future – you should be at 24! You’ll go a long way! 🙂 xx
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Hats off to you. You should be so so proud of yourself, you always look so together and you’re all so happy and that’s the main thing. xx
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You are just amazing. I love your attitude to life and you sound like an amazing Mummy xx
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What a wonderfully honest post and I have the utmost respect and admiration for you lady. You are a fab mama and your girls are lucky to have you. I find it hard enough doing it solo whilst the husband is on deployment for 6 months so you should be very proud x
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Ah Hun, you are truly amazing, never forget it. You are doing an incredible job. Being a single mama is some bring to be proud of and totally doesn’t change things when you have the right attitude, which you more than have. Amazing person, mama and woman. Bloody kudos to you sweets. xx
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You are doing an incredible job and its good to hear you and the kids Dad still get on and he is supportive. Better to raise your kids happily as a single parent than unhappily as a couple 🙂 #EatSleepBlogRT
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Being a parent is tough so to be a single parent does blow my mind. The positivity and your reflection is inspiring.
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Wow what an amazing post amy ! I have been their before but only with one you are doing it with three and by the looks of things your doing an absolute amazing job ! There always happy and smiling that’s all that matters , being on your own makes you a single independent strong women and I think your all of these x
Oh what beautiful children you have, well done you!
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Your an inspiration! Being a 23 year old single parent to twins I know exactly what you go through, it’s not easy but were strong women and I look at my kids everyday just feeling loved so much that nothing else really matters. As long as they have clothes on their backs, a roof over their heads and a hot dinner everyday kids are content. So happy I came across your blog, I am looking for young mummies like myself to relate to 🙂