It’s been over a year now since I dipped my toe back into the world of full time traditional work.
I say traditional work as I have been self employed as a blogger/sometimes YouTuber for 5 years, but I’m talking about that 9-5 grind – being in an office with other human-beings – kind of work.
There are things I have learnt along the way as a working mum with three children so I thought I would share them with you.
- You need to do something you love.
I don’t there is anything worse than sitting at work thinking of how that time could be better spent.
I know because I did it for about a year. I was in a role that just didn’t suit me, I didn’t feel that challenged, which in turn lead to me not feeling very fulfilled. I loved the people I was working with but the role just wasn’t the right fit for me. When an opportunity came along I made the hard decision to jump out of my comfort zone, make the change. And now – I love my new job, the days fly by and I really feel like I’m achieving something.
- Mum guilt will get you.
It’s inevitable. The mum guilt will catch up with you. I missed the girls sports day last month and felt terrible but we had just been on holiday and I couldn’t take any more time out which brings me on to my next point..
- You can’t do it all – but that’s fine.
I really had to take a minute and say to myself – yes you missed sports day but we just had the best trip ever of 5 days in France. The girls will remember our day trip visiting Disneyland forever. They wont remember that one time I didn’t see them walking around with a bean bag on their heads. Plus there’s always next year!
- You don’t get any points for doing it all by yourself.
This one took some adjustment I wont lie. I am very much a “no I’ve got this, thanks” kind of girl when it comes to people offering help. I never want to be a burden. It’s taken me a while to realise that actually I’m not a burden, nor are my kids. People really actually just care and want to help – it’s lovely.
So now when James says I’ll cook you go relax, I don’t hover round him like a fly trying to help I actually go and relax.
- It’s actually great for helping the kids develop in independence and social skills.
Maisy in particular has just blossomed so much lately and I am so incredibly proud of her. She gets stuck in to things she never usually would of, she’s so independent and her confidence has sky rocketed. I feel the mum guilt when I’m dropping them to holiday club at 8am but when I hear about all the new friends they have made or the new things they have tried I know it’s actually great for them and they’re getting so much out of it.
- Childcare is a bitch.
Yup it really is. It’s so expensive when you have more than one child. Luckily now Lottie is at school it’s significantly reduced my bill but the summer holidays just wipe me out completely. A tip would be save for child care in the school holidays like you would for a summer holiday – put a little by each month!
- Time off is cherished and I love that.
We really make the most of our weekends and evenings. I truly cherish the time I have with my girls now. Of corse I did before but I took it for granted. Now I know just hw special it is even if were just hanging out at home I make it count!