I have been a parent or an expectant parent now for over 5 years – wow I still remember going off out into town every weekend before I was expecting Maisy like it was yesterday!
The last 5 years have been a roller coaster from preparing for a baby to becoming a mummy for the first time to then being mad enough to have another 2 children. At times I felt lost like I didn’t have a clue what I was doing and other times like when they’re all in bed at 7 and I have a semi clean house that I think “yes I’ve got the sh*t down” (rare rare occasion)!
This evening I’ve been thinking about those pre baby days and not having a care in the world, even though people try and give you advice about what it’ll be like when you have kids I never listened just though they we’re making a fuss over nothing HA! Here are the 5 things I’d go back and tell my pre-mummy self.
- Stop moaning about being tired; you know when you come back from a ‘hard’ day of sitting on your arse at work pretending to know what you’re talking about and declare that your knackered just shut up. You don’t know what tired is till you have a newborn attached at the boob all night and toddlers who want to wake up and play at 6am.
- Learn how to cook; I didn’t learn how to cook before I had the girls I have taught myself bits and bobs along the way and would say now I’m not bad (if the foods edible I’m happy) but I wish I learnt before it would of been so much easier and I would of avoided a few kitchen disasters.
- Be more adventurous while you can; just say yes to more things, becoming a parent restricts you a lot I have 3 small people to consider before I do anything. Questions I have to ask my self when trying to make any plans go like this:
Can I take the kids?
If yes – what will they do? will they be bored? what do I need to take for them? can I really do this with all three of them?
If no – is Ryan off and able to have them? who else will be mental enough to babysit three kids? how long will I be gone? will it mess up their routine? what do I need to pack in their bag for the day?
Long gone are the days of last minute trips and random days/nights out everything is planned planned planned.
- Save some bloody money – kids aren’t cheap and having three that also have all their birthday’s within in 10 weeks of each other with christmas plonked in the middle too is just plain ridiculous – I wish I saved more when I had spare cash instead of blowing it on yet another dress.
- Don’t take your own parent’s for granted; hand’s up I did this you don’t know what hard work it is until you have your own children and there still only toddler’s I don’t know how my parents put up with teenage me I was a nightmare.
What about you what would you feel your pre mummy/daddy self?