5 Ways to deal with a toddler tantrum

Well the summer holidays are drawing to an end and what a summer it has been. Wall to wall sunshine has meant my girls have been out side running free and exploring each and every day. All the fresh air has meant no bed time issues and even the odd lay in for me!

Well we all know that’s not bloody true don’t we.

This summer has been utter crap so many plans cancelled due to terrible weather has left my girls stuck in doors and feeling bored alot – there are only so many crafts to attempt and cakes we can bake in a day. When they are bored and irritable it seems to be me that gets it in the neck as well with constant bickering and full blown melt downs over the smallest of things.

Some days have been very testing I have been putting all my tantrum dealing skills to the test thought I’d share with you some of my best ways to deal with these mega melt downs: toddler tantrum

  1. Pretending not to know them: definitely helps when you are in a crowded place and people are looking, like say the weekly food shop. Might be the holidays but we still need to eat. So off I go with three children and one trolly, well there’s your issue right there only one of them can sit in the trolly, you’d think the 18 month old would get first dibs on it but not if my oldest two have anything to say about it. As they argue over who will go in the trolly I quickly sneak Lottie in and stroll down the isle pretending I have no idea who these children are.
    Downfall to this method: they usually chase after you squealing mummy and then attach themselves to your ankle makes is a tad harder to pretend they aren’t yours. 
  2. Bribery: oh yes that one, so we have had the odd sunny day and we have headed off to the park to burn off some of that energy but then comes the moment you have to leave, rounding three children up is not for the faint hearted with only two hands one of the little buggers is bound to slip away and make for the climbing frame – whispering quietly about the promise of an ice-cream when they get home often gets them moving.
    Downfall to this method: when you arrive home to find and ice-creamless freezer you better brace your self – children never forget. It was them being on your ankles in the food shop that caused you to forget said ice creams but you cannot reason with a toddler so don’t even bring that up. 
  3. Let it all go over your head: on a trip to the school uniform shop to kit Maisy out with the last few bits she needed for school Bella spotted a uniform she quite liked. This was a uniform to a school on the other side of town that I had never heard of but she needed the jumper so badly she insisted on rolling around on the floor whilst I queued up to pay. Of corse people turn to look to see what all the commotion is about to which I reply with a little smile and eye roll and tell Bella in a nice little voice ‘oh your a silly sausage aren’t you’ when all I want is for the shop to swallow me up now right there and them.
    Downfall to this method: well it’s just plain embarrassing isn’t it I know all children have there moments but when it’s yours there is just nothing worse!
  4. Go all super nanny on them: Take no shit, have a three strike rule “poke your sister in the eye once more and our going straight to the time out spot madam”
    Downfall with this method: they seem to like being in time out they call it jail and it’s oh so fun to them, especially Lottie who voluntarily goes to sit there. Damn!
  5. If all else fails just sob: We all have those days when they finally get to bed you just want to scream into a pillow – it’s okay, have a glass of wine and breathe tomorrow is another day and remind yourself to shop online from this day forward.

Next time you are in ASDA with a toddler stuck to your ankle while you try to offer them cake as a peace offering/bribe don’t say I didn’t warn you!

You Baby Me Mummy
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32 Comments

  1. September 3, 2015 / 10:27 am

    What is is with kids! You tell them to go get their shoes and you find them ten seconds later building a fort under their bed. You tell them they can have a yoghurt six weeks on Tuesday and they wake you up on the day in question begging for petit filous :/
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  2. September 3, 2015 / 6:48 pm

    This made me laugh. I was so happy when my two were at school and nursery and I could do my Asda shop in peace. So much easier.

  3. September 3, 2015 / 9:02 pm

    My whole Summer! Can’t wait for next week! LOL! Yep to all of this. No idea how you do it with three though!! Pass the wine 😉 xxxxxx

  4. September 4, 2015 / 7:00 am

    Hahaha I think I have actually tried every one of these. What a great list. I’m always so tempted to throw myself down beside Evie though and tantrum too. I’m sure it would briefly work but the problem is, her tantrums are mostly out of the house. I think she can sense that Mummy doesn’t really want to tell her off in public. I know I need to more. x
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  5. September 4, 2015 / 8:37 am

    Haha! Lately what has worked for me with my youngest is to say ‘Well, C and I are going to do this and we’ll just leave you here then!’ and he promptly stops cos he hates the idea of missing out. In public it is usually bribes or the underarm screaming carry to the car. Both work though I prefer not to heave a screaming child through public places!

    PS: I’ve heard you guys had a rubbish summer, hoping ours is better (I’m in NZ).

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  6. September 4, 2015 / 9:54 am

    One tantruming child drives me insane, no idea how you cope with 3! I use bribery all the time! Thanks for linking up to #TheList x
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  7. September 4, 2015 / 10:41 am

    Haha, love this post Amy!

    I bribe Jasmine with food every time I need to put her back in her pushchair because it avoids a public meltdown. I’m probably making a rod for my own back but hey, it works.

    xx
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  8. September 4, 2015 / 12:08 pm

    I love this!! I currently am into bribing Amelia so dreadful but it works!! Ignoring definitely does work too xx
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  9. September 4, 2015 / 3:55 pm

    Laughing at this! Bribery seems to work best for us….

  10. September 8, 2015 / 8:05 am

    Pretending not to know him works for me, haha! They are so tough these tantrums! #twinklytuesday xx

  11. September 8, 2015 / 9:16 am

    Haha this is great! I mainly use bribery like food, dummies or even the promise that she’ll get to watch her favourite film Aristocats. I then have to make sure I can bribe her out of the dreaded ‘mamma just turned off the Aristocats tantrum’… oh dear! x #TwinklyTuesday
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  12. September 8, 2015 / 9:45 am

    Great post, I have used the bribery many a times only to find that actually we have no Jaffa Cakes and the tantrum continues at home, bad mummy!

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  13. September 8, 2015 / 3:16 pm

    Mine have always got a very clear eye level explanation of what I require in shops and I do any of it in record time even now they are older. Food is good and I just overall recommend the internet for as much shopping as possible. Avoidance all the way!! i love the image of you pretending they are not yours. Made me laugh. Kirsten
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  14. September 8, 2015 / 4:37 pm

    Oh yes, I see some old favourites on this list. Think I have tried them all too but got to say hubby is the best at no. 3. Half the time I think he fails to notice! #twinklytuesdays

  15. September 8, 2015 / 8:02 pm

    I can’t believe you still going shopping with three of them! The minute Zach got too much to handle in a supermarket we started online shopping! It saves so much aggro! That said, tonight after nursery I decided to take him to Tesco’s and buy him a helmet so he can whizz around on his scooter safely outside and a couple of pairs of jogging bottoms since they are more comfy than his skinny jeans. Honestly you’d have thought I was buying him rat poison or something. The firth thing he wanted was a massive tin of Roses (the chocs!), then he found a ruddy minions scooter which was like a trial one so he was whizzing around the shop and then I tried to try the helmet on and he hated it. I bought it anyway but by god what a nightmare. next time I’m going before I’ve picked him up from nursery. Stupid me for thinking it would be a fun little trip! Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
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    • September 13, 2015 / 8:35 pm

      Oh no that sounds a nightmare my girls are pretty good most of the time I let them pick a doughnut in the shop so that usually works for them haha

    • September 13, 2015 / 8:33 pm

      Need to try that one 😉

  16. September 9, 2015 / 8:43 am

    lol What a fun read! these outbursts always happen with there’s lots of people watching! Shopping check out lines & the toy aisle in Tesco are real hot spots. #KidsCorner x
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    • September 13, 2015 / 8:33 pm

      Always the way isn’t it

    • September 13, 2015 / 8:33 pm

      I don’t think they ever do, god help me when all my girl are in their teens this is probably the easy bit now

  17. September 9, 2015 / 10:41 am

    I can definitely relate to this post! I love the humour of it and your different strategies. You were brave for doing the supermarket shop in the holidays. I opted for online (ok, so Im a wimp!)!
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  18. September 9, 2015 / 12:43 pm

    I love a bit of bribery, theres nothing the promise of a kinder egg can’t sort out!! hats off to you going shopping with three little ones, one crazy boy is more than enough!! #kidscorner
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    • September 13, 2015 / 8:30 pm

      haha, they’re quite good really but do have their moments I usually bribe them with the bakery x

  19. September 10, 2015 / 12:54 pm

    Oh yes, we’ve been there. I must confess, I shop online now, ever since my twins came along, trying to avoid these supermarket meltdowns x
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    • September 13, 2015 / 8:26 pm

      I really should do more online!

    • September 13, 2015 / 8:26 pm

      aww thankyou, it can be tough at times but they’re pretty good kids x

  20. September 14, 2015 / 7:23 pm

    Haha the last one made me giggle as I know there have been plenty of times Ive wanted to sob! X
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