Mum’s and women of the world I have a question for you..
Think back over the last week, how much time did you have for just you? And no the weekly food shop definitely does not count. I am guessing not much and you are not alone in this. Nowadays more than ever us women are constantly under pressure from society to do more, to have it all and be constantly on the go.
As a busy mum of three young children I know just how important it is for me to have some ‘me time’, some time to just relax unwind and forget about the day-to-day stresses that come with parenting, working and keeping on top of the household chores. I know I need that time be it only an hour a day, so why am I not making that time a priority for myself?
There always seems to be something I deem more important but just who am I doing it for? Not me that’s for sure, as a mum I do always feel like I am trying to live up to others expectations and it seems that I’m with the majority on that.
Recently I was asked to speak out about the #LetGo campaign with Sanctuary Spa, I was shocked to read that 7/10 women in the UK feel under pressure to be the ‘perfect woman’ but what is perfect?
“At Sanctuary Spa we’ve recently commissioned research and discovered that women today are feeling enormous pressure in every aspect of life. As women, we are trying to keep up with this ideal that we ourselves adopt – to be perfect at absolutely everything we do and the pressures that we feel from the outside world just amplify our feelings of inadequacy
As an iconic female British brand we want to challenge the perception that success equates to busyness, leaning-in and being a superwoman. To us, success and wellbeing lie in stepping back every now and again, appreciating those moments and letting go.
But don’t just take our word for it. We’ve been working alongside expert life strategist Jenni Trent-Hughes as well as some women who we believe offer unquestionable life advice – women who have been there, done that, got the t-shirt and can share their invaluable advice with the rest of us.”
“From the beginning of time women have been multi-tasking but in the 21st Century we have become overly attached to our busyness; busy and stressed have somehow become inextricably linked with success.
In order to be really successful we need to #LetGo of these antiquated attitudes. Think of it as carrying a wagon behind you. The more that is in the wagon the harder it is to pull and the harder it is to pull, the more tired you will be and the less distance you will cover.
When was the last time you put a Do Not Disturb sign on the bathroom door and climbed into the bath for a long soak? When was the last time you sat on a park bench for even ten minutes and did absolutely nothing? No searching through your emails on the phone. No playing games. Nothing.
‘Get present to your presence’. Take a long hard look at yourself. Is there a sparkle in your eye? Is there still a slight skip in your step? If you met yourself at a party would you think ‘Oh I’d like to be friends with her’?
If you don’t like the answers to those questions then maybe it’s time for a rethink. Time to look and see what you can do, or stop doing that will take you back to being that person.
It’s in your hands. Time to take action and learn to #LetGo.”
The video really struck a cord with me particularly this quote:
It pretty much sums me up even I am constantly thinking back over my never-ending to do list instead of just enjoying what I am doing at the time, I know a lot of parents will relate to this.
4 ways to easily let go
Say what you are grateful for every morning
First thing in the morning, before you say a word to anyone and start planning your day, ask yourself ‘what am I grateful for?’ and whatever it is then say ‘thank you’. It doesn’t need to be anything grand or complicated, it could simply be ‘my family’, ‘my lovely soft skin’ or ‘that the dog didn’t chew my new shoes’
TT3 (Today’s Top 3 – things that you want to accomplish)
They could be small things, medium things or giant things – but stick to just 3. Write them on a little notepad and cross them off when you’ve done them – don’t put them in your phone, write them on a piece of paper. At the end of the day rip the paper up into little pieces and throw it away. Remember to be reasonable with your TT3; 1. Solve World Hunger. 2. Cure the Common Cold. 3. Learn Mandarin, is just asking for trouble.
TOT (Turn Off Time)
Turn off your phone and or tablet for 30 minutes per day. You can divide the time if you’d like but nothing smaller than ten minutes each time and it must be off. Not on silent. Perhaps choose this for your commute home, when you’re preparing the evening meal or when you’re soaking in the bath. But always off.
Use your commute time as You Time
Read a frivolous book. Crochet a scarf. Look at holiday brochures. Meditate.
Do NOT plan your next work day. Do NOT worry about the kids’ homework.
Do NOT read celebrity gossip stories and worry why you’re not managing like Gwynni.
It is really hard to switch it off and just concentrate on yourself and what you really do need at that moment in time which sometimes is just to do nothing, be you, relax, breathe and find your own little sanctuary.
This is a sponsored post written in collaboration with The Sanctuary Spa for their #LetGo campaign.