A Positive Body Image.
This topic seems to be popping up everywhere on social media at the moment. I myself have, in my head, thanked the likes of Clemmie from Mother of Daughters for starting up a conversation so openly about this topic because quite honestly as a mother of three little girls body image and the way it is perceived now a days scares the shit out of me.
You can’t scroll through instragam with out #bodygoals being thrown in your face. Lots of young women similar ages to me all fighting it out for the likes and the gratification. I want my daughters to have a healthy relationship with food, diet and exercise and I hope I provide the tools for them so that one day they will be able to continue to have a healthy lifestyle and a healthy perception of their own bodies. The sad thing is social media is massive, it’s part and parcel with all of our everyday lives now. One day it will also one day be part of my daughters lives I’m sure.
I see people around me beating them selves up over a heavily edited #bodygoals shot they spotted on their feeds and stating how they need to hit the gym and I feel sad. They all look bloody amazing but the pressures upon our shoulders to be perfect soon mount up. When I was a little girl it was in magazines and movies that you’d see these airbrushed stars looking gorgeous and glam but you knew it was just a photo shoot. Now these apps, filters, special lighting etc are readily available to all meaning everyone’s looking like a Kardashian. Technology is great, I use editing features myself usually to just make things brighter but I worry the effect it has on the way we perceive what our lives ‘should be like’ and how we ‘should look’.
I worry this will one day be my own children, the little girls that I think are perfect in every which way. Will they try and pose for a hour to get the best shot then trim their waists in on an app or will they just have the confidence to love the skin they’re in?
My body had been through a lot. I have carried 3 babies for 40 weeks each; I gave birth to them, I fed them, I spent endless nights eating custard creams as I sushed them back off to sleep. My body won’t ever be the same as it once was. Lots of people will say, oh you look, great, size 8 etc but the changes I notice you won’t necessarily and it’s taken a little while but I am okay with that – I am happy in my own body. Those imperfections remind me of the journey it has been on.
Confidence and self love isn’t something you just have, it’s something you choose to believe in and it’s something you teach the others around you. So stop body shaming, stop shaming yourselves set the example for the future generation because happy and healthy are all we really need to be.