So in my last week in pictures I mentioned I was having a little bit of a shitty time and to be honest looking back on it from a much happier place – it was my own fault. I was feeling like crap because for too long I’ve been letting negative people stay in my life who then have a negative impact on me.
I try to always see the good in people and remain positive but there does come a point when the light comes on and you see that they do nothing but bring you down and deflate your mood. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a bad person but there clearly is something wrong with the relationship you have with them. I am a trier, I try and talk things through, I try and express my feelings and come to a resolution but when it’s one sided there isn’t really much room to move forward.
In the last few weeks I’ve snapped a few times and just said enough is enough – these people wont change and why should they I wouldn’t change for someone else either. But I don’t have to accept it, I have three children and I run a business when I am in a bad mood I do it all in a half arsed way – guilty. I let things get to me and bring me down; I am not someone who can just let it go over my head, I carry stress with me which isn’t good for anyone it was making me feel ill, constant tension head aches and even a bout of tonsillitis!
So I was selfish, I put myself first and I just detached from that negativity which was bringing me down. It’s not about giving up or cutting people from my life I just need to not have that strain on me right now and I wont feel bad for that. It needn’t be done in a big dramatic way either I’ve just stopped engaging in it, I’ve stopped trying to fix something that is broken, I need to focus first and foremost on whats important to me, that’s my girls and making them happy is a hell of a lot easier when I am happy myself.
Positivity breads positivity; some people think this is just zen hippy BS but I tell you what it’s bloody true when you remove those that hold you back you can shine and make room for good things and people you deserve.
I’m off to meditate now and plant a tree of happiness catch you later – peace and love. Oh look I haven’t lost the sarcasm along the way;) thankgod!
I’m so happy for you, that you decided to take that step, in your life.
I also agree, trying to toss the negativity away…I’m twisted mentally, tighter than a drum, which causes me to loose focus, on that which is most important.
However, unlike you…I did it in a dramatic way, which I now, regret.
Thank You So Much for keeping it real…That’s what I Personally need, This day and time.
Thank you, Again !!
Thankyou Kimberly Comments like that really do make my day lots of love xx
Well done for making changes, it can be so hard. I agree that who you are around makes such a difference to how you feel – positivity DOES breed positivity x
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I can 100% relate to this right now and i totally get where you’re coming from with needing to remove negative aspects and people from your life. When something’s broken and not working, you can only try for so long to patch things up and fix it! Well done you on having the courage to make those changes lovely. xxx
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So sorry to hear you weren’t feeling happy but glad to hear you are feeling much better now xx
Well done for taking the brace but necessary steps to make your life and those of your children’s better. Happy mummy = happy kids and especially when you’re doing it all! You are a real inspiration to me – Holding down a family, your own business and blogging. Life’s too short for energy suckers they just drain you and you need all your energy for your precious babies. Keep up the good work
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I completely get where you’re coming from as I also let things get to me, even though I shouldn’t. Well done for taking a positive step forward and removing the negativity in your life that was bringing you down! x
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You are 100% right, I let other people dragged me down, turn the other cheek and all that, but no I have come to that point too. I wont let them impact my life anymore. Good on you!
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I can relate to this so badly. I’m really trying to work on me, I’m way too stressed most of the time and it’s really having an impact on most aspects of my life xxx
You need to be brave enough to walk away who doesn’t bring the best out of you, well done!
thankyou xx