Mum guilt is real. When a little bundle is born we drop ourselves into second/third or even forth place. It see’s us mums feeling guilty when we so much as want to take a pee in peace – it gets easier with time trust me! I’ve been thinking back to those early baby days and the things I used to feel guilty about so I thought I would share my “8 things to never feel guilty about as a new mum”.
- Staying in bed till noon. Baby days can be hard work, especially the early days. Newborns sleeping patterns are very unpredictable don’t feel guilty about nodding back off with your little one or having a bed day. Leave the house work, stock up on snacks, have nappies and wipes to hand and don’t leave the comfort of your duvet from time to time!
- Washing your hair. I have lost count of how many times I’ve heard “I couldn’t get in the shower because the baby was awake.” Put the baby in a safe place like a cot or even the bouncy chair in the bathroom with you and have the shower. You will feel so much better for it.
- Forgetting how many days/hours/minutes old your baby is. We’ve all been in the situation “This is baby Susan she is 8 months 3 weeks 2 days and 35 minutes old” whilst we wrack our brains trying to remember what month we are in. It’s not just you don’t worry – Susan’s mum is just a bit of a nob.
- Loving a bit of daytime TV. Maternity leave is all about becoming an honorary loose women and learning from Jeremy Kyle exactly how normal our lives actually are in comparison to some. But draw the line somewhere if you hear yourself saying ‘must be off now I want to catch today’s Judge Rinder’ step away from ITV.
- Not using half the crap you buy for the baby. Don’t feel guilty about the amount of stuff you ‘needed’ so badly in the run up to your baby arriving – we all make unnecessary purchases for the first baby. Just suck it up, put it online and hope some other poor sod also needs that rocking nursing chair with 4 reclining setting and a cup holder which has held nothing but a pile of washing for the last 6 months.
- Feeling bored. Babies are cute, I like them but (sorry girls) they’re a bit boring. Feed, burp, change, sleep – repeat. The first few days you’ll stare at them in awe wandering if they’re actually really here after 9 long ass months, after that you wouldn’t be alone if you felt a little bit bored from time to time. Top tip from one mum to another never wake a sleeping baby because you are bored – instant regret take up knitting or a love of day time TV leave the baby alone.
- Only changing out of your PJ bottoms when guests arrive. My eldest daughter is 6 and I still get home and change straight in to my PJ bottoms it is fine!
- Posting too many pictures of your baby. You went through 9 months of waddling around trying to control things like your hormones, morning sickness and bladder for this parenting lark. Sure the babies bald and a bit wrinkly but it is also the most beautiful thing you have ever laid eyes on – post away.
To clarify you feel free to stay in bed all day taking photos of the sleeping baby whist watching Jeremy Kyle with clean hair and checking the bids you have on the crap you just Ebay’d and you bloody enjoy it.